AMBER + CHRIS

I don’t think either of us were ready to 'meet the one', but we also couldn’t seem to look away.

Chris and I were set up by friends who were dating at the time. We met at a loud smoky bar at midnight, which was not ideal. We were both living in New York City and had both recently been through a bad breakup. I don’t think either of us were ready to “meet the one,” but we also couldn’t seem to look away. When I first met him I was jaded by the dating scene and I thought he was a typical New York City guy, throwing all the lines and just trying to score. But eventually what really caught my eye was his artistic talent. I knew he had something special. We were both creative artist types with the same easy-going attitude, and we just had the best time every time we were together. 

 

 

My previous relationship was a six year whirlwind that left me heartbroken and with a lot of walls up. I thought my ex was my perfect match: handsome, successful, and the life of the party. When I met Chris, I didn’t think he was right for me. He was a little rough around the edges and lived in an old firehouse in Brooklyn. He somehow also reminded me of my dad, weird.  As I got to know him, I fell in love with all the things I didn’t know I was looking for. He is passionate, talented, and driven, he is perpetually sweet and attentive, and he completely adores me. Unlike my ex, he also had dreams of the future that were actually in line with mine, and that meant that I didn’t have to change a thing. My previous relationship was a six year whirlwind that left me heartbroken and with a lot of walls up. I thought my ex was my perfect match: handsome, successful, and the life of the party. When I met Chris, I didn’t think he was right for me. He was a little rough around the edges and lived in an old firehouse in Brooklyn. He somehow also reminded me of my dad, weird.  As I got to know him, I fell in love with all the things I didn’t know I was looking for. He is passionate, talented, and driven, he is perpetually sweet and attentive, and he completely adores me. Unlike my ex, he also had dreams of the future that were actually in line with mine, and that meant that I didn’t have to change a thing. 

 


    We knew we wanted to have our wedding outside in the summer in Portland since it’s ridiculously beautiful here then. My mom found the venue, which I thought seemed cheesy, “Bridal Veil Lakes," but we went to see it anyway. I found out that it was named after a waterfall, Bridal Veil Falls, and not just a wedding themed wedding venue. It was breathtakingly gorgeous, natural, and expansive. The space was a private wild garden around a little lake with canoes, flowers, and trees on all sides, and it had sweeping views of the Columbia River Valley. Even without decor, it was perfect. We had 128 people. It was a warm sunny summer day without a cloud in the sky and we were blessed with the most epic sunset I’ve ever seen. 

     

     

    We wrote our own vows. I wrote something heartfelt and beautiful, but then realized that I couldn’t say it out loud without bursting into tears. On the wedding day, I somehow managed to forget my fear of public speaking, all the people staring at me, and my quivering nerves. I looked Chris in the eye and said the whole thing from my heart without a waver or a tear. His vows were funny and sweet. I didn’t have a wedding party. I didn’t want my friends to have to do anything more than celebrate and I wanted it to just be Chris and I at the altar. In the end, all my friends helped significantly anyway. It is remarkable because each took on something that was intrinsically their talent or passion… i.e., making the cakes, helping with the flowers, setting everything up, being the MC, being the Officiant. I was blown away with how much they helped despite the titles or formalities, and how perfectly it all worked out. The menu at our party was local, seasonal and fresh. We had a caterer who used fresh ingredients sourced from their farm and around Portland. We also hired bartenders who crafted signature cocktails with garden fresh herbs, berries and local liquors. The desserts were Chris and my favorite treats, and were all handmade by friends. We always gush about the quality of the food in Portland, and I think our wedding sealed the deal in convincing our friends and family of that. Sadly, we had to leave the venue at midnight, but we had amazing DJs who got the dancing going before we left. I wish we had had more time. 

     


      I’m happy I did the planning myself and was resourceful and creative in making the perfect party for us. I realize now that I could have used some professional support in coordinating on the day of the wedding and the day before, since it was hectic to be the coordinator and the bride. My friends and family helped in the end, and it all worked out, but if I could do it again, I would alleviate some of that franticness from all of our plates. Other than that, I wouldn’t have changed a thing. I had so much fun creating the perfect wedding that I got inspired and helped a friend with their wedding a few months later. Then I realized that I really love weddings. It’s similar to the work I already do, but the focus is love… how awesome and meaningful. I decided I'm going to start doing wedding and event styling. A year ago that would have seemed ludicrous.