Jessica + Andrew

There are three of us in this relationship. Him, me, and us.

After three years of working as an architect in London, I moved back to Williamsburg, Brooklyn. I met Andrew at a loft party. I remember talking his ear off the whole night — before we started kissing on a fire escape ladder!

 

A few days after we met, we went to Manhattan Inn for brunch. Thanks to bottomless rum punches, coffee, live piano, a bright skylight, and deep conversation, we stayed for four hours. Neither of us wanted it to end.

He was convinced that we were musical soulmates, and I was his Stevie Nicks creative partner. I had no intention of being a musician, but if it meant spending more time with this wacky, exciting man, then I was open to memorizing chords and going to rehearsals in Bed Stuy. We joined this ridiculous Cumbia band and gigged some insane parties.

 

One night, while playing Wanda Jackson’s “Funnel of Love,"  I ran out of the basement in a dramatic fit. He chased after me. I told him I couldn’t stand playing love song after love song with him without saying I love you. “OK! I LOVE YOU!”, he said. Soon after, he proposed.

We designed our wedding rings with Stone Fox Bride. Mine is a gold crescent moon, studded with iridescent moonstones, hugging a yellow diamond engagement ring with trillion cut diamond accents. His is a matte gold band with a polished tapered triangle rising from the center. Triangles have been a theme for us. There are three of us in this relationship. Him, me, and us. We’re committed to taking the best care of all three of these identities equally. As far as the crescent moon...we met under a full moon and married under a new moon.

 

I was so excited to have a wedding, but so grossed out by the wedding industry monster that dictates what you MUST do and MUST have.

 

We got married at Pioneer Farm.150 acres of rolling hills with a pond, wildflowers, a blue slate pool, coach house, cottage house, and two tiny houses built on hay wagons. The owner is a rad, free-spirited dude who gave us total freedom to take over for the weekend… a rare find!

The morning of our wedding, my bridesmaids, moms and I sat in a circle together, while my friend Carolyn guided us in a sound meditation.

 

We wrote our entire ceremony, borrowing from a wide spectrum of traditions and inventing new ones of our own. We shared our written vows for the first time. After our vows, Andrew also played a song that he wrote for me while we were in Peru. My mom and dad walked me down the aisle, while our friend Dan played acoustic guitar.

 

We danced like mad to Brooklyn based band “People’s Champs”. Our band, Big Volcano played a few songs as well. After the reception, we all headed down to a big bonfire where we swapped stories, sang songs, and danced some more until about 3 am.

 

Vendors:

Flowers & Coordination: Whimsy Weddings

Music: The People's Champs, Hang In Balance (Daniel Waples), Daniel Griffith (aka Ramblin' Dan, our friend on guitar that played ceremony music)

Venue: Pioneer Farm

Photographer/Videographer: Sasha Israel Photography (photo), 96 Pixels Productions (video)

Wedding Dress: Sarah Seven

Hair and Makeup: Molly McGuire

Engagement Ring: Custom design with Stone Fox Bride

Cake: Chef Lenny Ganshirt (potted desserts... no cake)

Rentals: Boston Rustic Wedding Rentals

Wedding Bands: Custom designs with Stone Fox Bride

Catering: Chef Shawn Hubbell of Amuzae (local)