Kayla + Lewis

I realized that planning a wedding brings every single thing up—money stuff, family stuff, grief stuff, body image and/or perfectionism stuff.

A friend of mine convinced me to try the online thing and made my OK Cupid profile — I was horrified but did it anyway. I only went on dates with two people from the app and the second one was Lewis.


I remember being really nervous but when we finally met, I was completely at ease. Halfway through my burger on our first date, I knew this was the guy I was going to marry.

The topic of marriage came up so naturally. Lewis would probably tell you the opposite. He would probably say I was demanding a ring four months in (LOL). I think the truth probably lies somewhere in between.

 

The weekend after Thanksgiving 2016, Lewis had the idea to drive upstate to the Catskills to cut down a Christmas tree and spend the night. We looked for a tree for almost two hours while Lewis had the ring around his pinky finger in his glove the whole time. He got down on one knee next to it, ax in hand and pulled out the beautiful ring that I had tried on during our trip to Maine the previous summer. I didn't know what to do, so I got down on one knee too.

I was 100% a fuck weddings bride. I would just call my mother crying because I was so overwhelmed. Honestly, thank God for SFB and this being a place where brides were granted permission to say "WTF?!" and still have the wedding anyway.  I realized that planning a wedding brings every single thing up—money stuff, family stuff, grief stuff, body image and/or perfectionism stuff — it all comes up. I thought I was pretty evolved, but this thing made me have to lean in and grow more. All of that being said, the wedding was fucking GREAT. And I would go through all of the planning all over again without hesitation just to have the day one more time.


We got married at the Wythe Hotel which was dreamy. We wrote our own vows and my godmother married us. The morning of, I slept as late as possible, woke up in an unbelievable loft suite and had coffee and one of Reynard's Morning Buns delivered to my room. My bridesmaids and I hung out in PJs, drank diet cokes, and listened to my maid of honor playlist — old school Mariah Carey, Spice Girls, and of course, Bey.

My Dad passed away in Spring of 2016 and I knew he would still be there with me that day and he was. We walked down the aisle together to Talking Heads This Must Be the Place.


Our wedding party was the best, we told everyone navy and let them get their own dresses and suits. In hindsight that was a pretty ballsy move, but honestly, I just wanted everyone to be comfortable.


We had a family style meal starting with mixed lettuces and beef tartar followed by roasted chicken and the most unbelievable grilled shrimp I've ever eaten. We had Sweet Generation desserts — cupcakes, cookies, brownies, and fun "throw back" cereal bar treats because we're both obsessed with Captain Crunch. We also had a small confetti naked cake for us to cut to the Jaw's theme song — our favorite summer time movie.

 

Vendors:

Photographer - Kelly Giarrocco 

Flowers - Stems Brooklyn

Music - DJ Phi Unit

Wedding Planner - that would be me

Day of Coordinator - Starling on Bond

Venue - Wythe Hotel

Videographer - Robo James Productions

Wedding Dress - Alexendra Grecco

Bridesmaids Dress - I just told them navy and they found their dresses at all different places

Hair and Makeup - Ava Scrivo 

Wedding Shoes - Stuart Weitzman

Engagement Ring - antique ring from Cross Jewelers in Portland, ME

Cake - Sweet Generation

Rentals - Broadway Rentals

Wedding Bands - The Clay Pot (his) + Greenwich Street Jewelers (her)

Catering - Reynard